When Love Still Exists – How to Win Your Ex Back

When Love Still Exists – How to Win Your Ex Back

This is for the ladies, but guys, it's ok for you to read it too.

Are you interested in how to win your ex back? Did you have a special kind of relationship with a man you loved and he walked out? Do you have a lot of emotional investment in the relationship and you are not ready to toss in the towel just yet? If so, then here are some steps to help you win your ex back.

I think the first thing you need to do is take some time to sit down and figure out how you really feel about him. Get you a notepad, a cup of coffee or glass of tea, and take a few minutes to analyze your feelings.

Do you still have passionate feelings about him, or have you become 'just comfortable' being with him … sort of like an old cotton bathrobe? Too many times we forget to do the little things that keep a relationship passionate and we begin to take each other for granted. It takes work and investing time and effort to keep a relationship strong.

If you believe you still are deeply in love with him, then the next step is to find out how he really feels about you.

Do you believe he still has strong feelings for you? If the reason he walked out was caused by lack of communications, money problems, not spending quality time together … things you can work on, then you could stand a good chance of getting back together. If the reason for the breakup was deeper, such as drugs, porn, or cheating, you may need professional help to work things out, but it can be done.

If you want to win your ex back, then you need to remember the kind of woman you was when he fell in love with you. Have you changed? Do you still take care of you health and your appearance? Do you still do the little things that attracted him to you in the first place? Now, do not say, 'if he would do this, I would do that.' You can not change him. then, if he still loves you, he will want to change.

I know this has been 'preached' over and over, but please … do not rush back into the relationship. Take 'little bitty' steps.

Do not call him, do not text him ten times a day, and do not follow him! Be casual and stay distracted from him for a while. Do not beg, plead, or make him think you are needy. This will also give him time to do some serious thinking, and maybe he will see what a beautiful person your really are. The love and desire for you may begin to burn again.

Should he call you and ask you out make it a quick, casual time. Coffee or tea time only. No dinner and movie type date at first. And, for goodness sake … do not sleep with him. That is one of the worst things you can do. Your emotions are not ready for that kind of commitment yet!

OK Let's review:

1. Do you still really love him and do you want to try to get back together?

2. Do you believe he still loves you?

3. Are you willing to accept responsibility for some of the reasons he left?

4. Remember … slow and easy … baby steps.

5. Be cool and casual. Even though your heart may be hurting do not let it show.

6. Make a list of what you think the problems were, and work on one at a time.

The most important thing is just be yourself. Do not pretend. When the right time comes for you to start talking about getting back together, do not be afraid to say how you feel. Remember, you can solve almost any problem if you can learn to talk with, and not to each other. Then you will be able to win your ex back. Get my Free book, 'What Men Need-What Women Want' for more advice on relationship problems.

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